Late Starter to FI Series #25 – Divorce and Financial Independence

Pink broken heart on a line | Divorce and financial independence

Welcome to the Late Starter to FI series!

I am a Late Starter – I did not discover FIRE (Financial Independence Retire Early) concept until I was 47. This was way later, I thought than others who seem to have it all together in their 20s and 30s.

Since I started to write about my own journey, I have discovered there are many more Late Starters like me, yay! It is such a relief knowing I am not alone. 

I want to share our stories, our unique perspectives and show that it is absolutely not too late for us.

So in this series, I particularly highlight those of us who start our FI journeys in our 40s, 50s and 60s. And explore questions such as ‘where do we start’, ‘can we still retire early(ish)’, ‘what are the specific challenges for us late starters’. We look at our past, not to castigate ourselves but so that you can learn from us.

Please join in the conversation in the comments below. I encourage you to share your story if you fit the profile of a late starter. You absolutely don’t have to be a blogger or podcaster to share your story. 

Please email me at info@latestarterfire.com or connect with me on Twitter or Facebook or Instagram.

And if you’ve missed any of the previous stories, you can catch up here – Late Starter to FI series

Pink broken heart on a line | Divorce and financial independence
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Many late starters have experienced divorce – that is just a fact of life with more than a third of all marriages in Australia ending in divorce. The statistics in America are similar.

Today’s Late Starter, Xrayvsn is a doctor, a radiologist as you may guess from his name. He writes about how his divorce started him on the path to financial independence.

You may connect with him on Twitter too.

And now, here is Xrayvsn in his own words …

A Little About Me

I am a single male, age 49 who divorced right before I turned 40 in 2011. I have one daughter, age 14 that I have full custody of.

I am a physician (radiologist), who graduated medical school in 1997 and finished residency and fellowship in 2003.

I am a personal finance blogger at Xrayvsn.com, covering such topics as FIRE, burnout, and issues encountered with divorce.

I have been blogging since April 2018 and post content three times a week (Tues, Thurs, Sun).

My Lightbulb Moment

It was actually my divorce that started the chain of events that led to my “lightbulb” moment.

My nationality is Indian and I was sort of backed into an arranged marriage set up by my mother and relatives.

I was incredibly unhappy during my 7-year marriage and finally could not take it any more and filed for divorce.

My wife at the time became incredibly vindictive and made the 12 months of divorce proceedings quite contentious.

I estimated that I ended up paying over $300k in legal fees when all was said and done.

The divorce court split our marital assets with values tilting towards 60% in her favour.

My ex wife received the entire 401k (about $160k), a couple of condos we owned, as well as the majority of our savings account.

My net worth was therefore at its lowest, at around negative $850k, when the divorce papers were signed.

I was about to turn 40 and knew if I didn’t do something, I would never be able to retire, let alone try and retire early.

It is quite sad because, despite all the years of training (around 26 years) to become a physician, I never had one formal lecture on personal finance.

I decided I had to make a change and then began a quest to gain knowledge about personal finance.

I naturally gravitated towards other physician finance blogs when I first started looking.

I also stumbled upon the Bogleheads who helped me tremendously in my quest to achieve wealth.

Because of this, I became a fan of passive index funds as well as real estate (via syndications).

My income afforded me the ability to rapidly change my financial situation once I knew how to channel the funds appropriately.

I loved the concept of financial independence and knew that I wanted my money working for me and not the other way around.

I became debt free right right before my 45th birthday and have never looked back since.

 

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First Steps On The Path To FI

The very first step I took was to come to the realisation that I had to make a drastic change in my finances.

Gaining financial knowledge was relatively easy once I began to look for it on the internet.

How Far Along The FI Path Am I Now?

Beacuse of my significant income from being a radiologist, as well as a record long bull market and some other savvy real estate investments I participated in after my divorce, I feel that I am already at “my number” for financial independence.

My passive income streams are essentially covering my annual burn rate.

It is a complete 180 of how I feel now compared to how I felt at the time of my divorce.

Although the divorce was a painful and expensive year to go through, I feel that I would not be in this great financial position now if I were still married.

Will I Retire Early?

I am actually way ahead of the timeline I set out when I first started my path to FI.

I originally anticipated reaching my current net worth at the age of 53, which was when I thought I would retire early.

I chose age 53 because that is when my daughter would have graduated high school and leave for college.

I thought if I am pinned down geographically because of her schooling, I might as well work.

I am quite conservative and figure that even though I could retire now and be perfectly fine, working another 4 more years will give me a much larger cushion in retirement to rely on.

I definitely want to retire early and feel that the latest would be when I turn 53.

Medicine has been challenging with reimbursements going down and more and more hoops to jump through.

I know a lot of colleagues who are burnt out from the pressures of medicine and I would like to avoid that.

The Step That Propelled Me To FI

The most significant step I took was diversifying my portfolio and adding real estate.

There are a lot of tax benefits from real estate, the biggest being depreciation, that allowed me to have a lot of passive income without a major a tax hit.

My grand slam investment was investing in the ground floor of my medical practice building which we sold in May 2019.

I used the proceeds of the sale to continue to invest in real estate syndications so that I can receive “mailbox” money.

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How My Relationship With Money Has Changed

I used to buy things that only brought temporary happiness.

Sure, it is nice to have the latest tech/gadgets out there, but soon something better comes along and you get into this vicious cycle of buying things you really don’t need.

I now prefer spending money on experiences.

Even years later, I still derive great pleasure reliving memories from past trips with loved ones.

In my younger days, I never really thought about retirement, which seemed like decades away.

I could have been much further along in my finances if I had put even a little away towards retirement all those years ago.

So, if I had a second chance, I would have certainly taken advantage of all the retirement account opportunities I had when I first started out.

Specific Challenges Or Advantages Of Starting Late

Unfortunately, the biggest ally an individual has is lost when starting late and that is time.

We all know how powerful compound interest is, which can give you a great head start if you start early.

So, the biggest challenge is to overcome that compounding boost that was lost.

Most physicians are already disadvantaged because they start their careers late and typically incur a lot of educational debt in the process.

But a high income can certainly level the playing field, as long as you do not let lifestyle inflation / creep slow you down.

Starting late also means that you have a smaller window in which you can make mistakes.

When you are young, you can make large financial mistakes and still recover because you have time to do so.

However, in your later years, an ill timed financial mistake can be disastrous.

As far as advantages of starting late, hopefully those extra years have provided wisdom and experience to make the best of what time is left. 

What's Next?

I do see myself working as a physician for at least another 3 to 4 years.

The majority of the money earned will be invested in real estate and the stock market.

 

I also want to use this money to increase my emergency fund so that it can cover 2-3 years of living expenses.
 

Although the COVID pandemic has given me a glimpse of a black swan event, it really has not impacted my investing strategy.

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Thank you very much for sharing your story with us., Xrayvsn.

From a devastating divorce with a negative $850k net worth to being financially independent in 9 years is an amazing achievement! All thanks to a high income but more importantly, your determination to eliminate your debt, live frugally and invest your freed up cash into index funds and real estate.

I look forward to following your journey into early retirement.

Catch up on late starters in this series whose finances were also affected by divorce:

#3 – Heavy Metal Money

#14 – Frogdancer Jones

#15 – FI after 40

#21 – Vinnie

#23 – Retire Early with a Low Income

How has divorce or any other life changing event impacted your finances?

Late Starter to FI Series #24 – Passive Income Generators

Snake River, Idaho | Passive Income

Welcome to the Late Starter to FI series!

I am a Late Starter – I did not discover FIRE (Financial Independence Retire Early) concept until I was 47. This was way later, I thought than others who seem to have it all together in their 20s and 30s.

Since I started to write about my own journey, I have discovered there are many more Late Starters like me, yay! It is such a relief knowing I am not alone. 

I want to share our stories, our unique perspectives and show that it is absolutely not too late for us.

So in this series, I particularly highlight those of us who start our FI journeys in our 40s, 50s and 60s. And explore questions such as ‘where do we start’, ‘can we still retire early(ish)’, ‘what are the specific challenges for us late starters’. We look at our past, not to castigate ourselves but so that you can learn from us.

Please join in the conversation in the comments below. I encourage you to share your story if you fit the profile of a late starter. You absolutely don’t have to be a blogger or podcaster to share your story. 

Please email me at info@latestarterfire.com or connect with me on Twitter or Facebook or Instagram.

And if you’ve missed any of the previous stories, you can catch up here – Late Starter to FI series

Todd with his wife and children
Todd with his family

Today, I’d like to introduce you to late starter, Todd from 50PlusOnFIRE.com

Todd writes about his journey to Financial Independence with his wife, using a different strategy instead of investing in the stock market. And about their motivation to put generosity first.

Todd can also be contacted on social media via @50PlusOnFIRE on Facebook, Twitter or Pinterest.

 

A little about us

Wendy and I live in beautiful Meridian, Idaho where our children are fourth generation students in the school district, going back to their great grandmother. I, on the other hand, like many residents of Idaho, grew up in California although I have not lived there since the summer of my sophomore year of college back in the late ’80s.

I am in my mid 50s and am known as ’50+’ on my blog, while my wife goes by and will forever be ’50-‘.

We married back in 2003, each bringing a 5 year old child from previous marriages, and we’ve had two children together.

I’ve worked in management since college – despite my original master’s degree in French and intention to teach. And have been a financial educator and education manager with a nonprofit credit counseling agency since 2004. We have been fortunate that Wendy has chosen and been able to be at home full-time to raise our family, mostly thanks to her thrift and savvy shopping.

Our favorite things to do together include spending time on the windy and rainy Oregon Coast, watching Harry Potter movies, and visiting any Disney or University Studios theme park.

COVID really cleaned out our social schedules. Our evenings are spent with our two boys at home rather than at activities or social events.

Just before spring break 2020, my employer sent all employees home to work. Those six weeks left a delicious taste in my mouth for financial independence and working from home.

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Lightbulb moment

 

As a financial educator and blogger for my non profit credit counseling employer, I had been hearing about FinCon and the FIRE movement since 2016 or 2017 or so. I have attempted many times since 2002 to start and run my own business and earn side income.

My moment finally came when I started reading several FIRE blogs that shared their journey experiences, including the income they were earning from their blogs. I realized there were two differences between these FIRE bloggers and me: first, I had far greater experience with writing and financial principles, and second, they were earning far more money and were in a far stronger financial position than I was.

I had always lacked discipline in my finances growing up, maxing out my first $2,000 credit card in 36 hours at age 21. I overshot my first $500 gas card credit limit the next year by $300.

In the fall of 2019, just as I was coming to these realizations, I spoke with a friend in my church about what he does. He was the volunteer scout leader and always seemed to be available for every event and activity. I learned that he and a friend had started a website that teaches bloggers to take their idea from conception to income replacement within 24 months – incomeschool.com  With his mentorship, I launched my first niche blog on the type of dogs we own that few have heard of: ShihpooCentral.com

Finally, as a person of faith, I was ready to change my relationship with money from one of earning and entitlement to one of appreciating my blessings and sharing them with others in need. One particularly meaningful passage from our holy text refers to seeking riches with the intent to do good. That is when I committed to giving at least half of all revenues generated by my FIRE efforts.

The whole idea of FIRE fit well with our vision of what we want to achieve in our remaining decades. In order to volunteer for service and humanitarian missions for our church, to spend time with our adult children and their families, and to do good now in our communities and neighborhood, we needed to create Financial Independence sooner than later.

Our financial situation

I was nearly 40 by the time I opened my first IRA, and we have always justified not maxing out our contributions because of needing things for our four kids. We had twice the retirement fund average in the US, but it was not near enough to support ourselves in retirement, even with Social Security.

Now in my 50s, I sense much more strongly the finite nature of time and know that we do not have enough saved for retirement and will not, even if we maxed out both my 403(b) and our IRAs (which would basically leave us homeless and in need of food pantry assistance).

I post our FIRE Journey progress monthly on my blog. It’s early, but after a major impulse purchase set us back in June, we corrected and have made some good progress on our debt. Our main focus is building what I call our PIGs, or Passive Income Generators. For now, these include our two blogs that will eventually grow to replace our full time income and will last well into retirement.

Other than a propensity to take our kids to Disneyland or Disney World every four or five years, we live pretty frugally. Wendy has worked wonders over the years, putting food on the table for a family of six with a $400 monthly grocery budget.

First steps on the path to FI

Honestly, the very first step on our FIRE journey was to accept that any income we generated for our financial independence would not belong to us but to God, to do as much good as we could. We’ve been very blessed in our lives and want to empower others.

Once we accepted that principle, we needed to decide how much we needed to live on long-term. Finally, creating our PIGs to cover those needs was the third step.

 

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How far along the path to FI are we now?

We are barely 12 months into this journey. Our first blog is on track to replace 5% of our full-time income within the next year with minimal ongoing attention, and our second blog has exponentially greater potential.
 
I feel hopeful now, more hopeful than I have ever been with our future. Our progress is small, but we now have a vision for what financial independence will look like for us.

Specific challenges or advantages of starting late

Compared to those who start in their 20s and 30s, those of us starting later have much more drastic options to choose from. We can choose to max out our investments (401k/403b, IRAs), create one or more long-term PIGs, or both.

Personally, I was not ready to consider FIRE earlier. Before marriage and family, I was too self-centered, living too much by a consumer driven Carpe Diem. With young children, we tried to focus on providing a loving home and experiences rather than just material things.

Now, in my 50s, I’ve authored several books and have much greater confidence in my abilities to focus on our goals and achieve them. Having earned a second masters degree in 2017 (International Management), I am much better prepared to run my own business and am by far a better writer than I was even 10 years ago.

 

Will we reach FI?

Yes, I am both hopeful and confident.

Originally, our goal is for me to retire from my full-time job at age 60. For a little while, I wavered because by doing so, I would miss out on any sort of social security. However, our goals for our PIGs are such that they will far outweigh any Social Security benefits we would receive at 62 or even 67 years old.

Still, I really do love my job as a financial educator. I could easily picture myself stepping into a part-time role after 60, even taking a sabbatical before returning.

The only reason we would really want to retire early (6-7 years early) would be to spend six to eighteen months at a time on humanitarian and service missions through our church. Our youngest will have graduated high school by then and will be in college.

Six years of working on my PIG for two hours each weekday morning before heading to my job plus one or two nights a week writing blog posts and developing my PIGs will get us there.

 

What's next?

I’m working on my first FIRE book, after which I will develop and begin offering corresponding eCourses and digital downloads.

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Thank you, Todd for sharing your FIRE journey and story with us.

Creating passive income streams in retirement is the holy grail, isn’t it? I have been thinking about this a lot lately too, wondering if it is safe to rely on Australian shares continuing to reward investors with good dividends in the future. Having another source of passive income is prudent, especially when starting late on the investing journey.

And your spirit of generosity is so inspiring – giving half of your income earned from passive income generators to your church.

I look forward to following your progress on the path to financial independence and eventual retirement :)

What are your passive income streams in retirement? Do you have any now?

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